I love "spying" on my kids- watching them be completely themselves as they become the amazing people they are meant to be. It reminds me that they are individuals. They are complete unto themselves in spite of projections I put on them. They have their own dreams, hopes and fears, that have nothing to do with me. The connection between mother's and their children can be so strong that it leaves us unable to see beyond our own hopes and dreams for them and not as they truly are.
I get so wrapped up in the idea of "my child," feeling sure that other parents are looking at and judging me based on my child behavior that they become little extensions of me rather than the autonomous creatures they are and should be allowed to be.
Stepping back and just watching them be themselves with no input from me shows me how amazing they are...in spite of me... and makes me fall in love with them all over again.
|Pic is of me spying on Zoe during her violin lesson|